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Advertisers Want You to Feel Bad About Yourself

Posted by healthyhabi | Posted in happy, Self love | Posted on 08-16-2017

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Advertisers Want You to Feel Bad About Yourself

People who feel confident and good about themselves don’t buy as much Axe body spray, diet pills, and cosmetic surgeries.
In a consumer-driven society like ours, it benefits the economy when you feel as bad about yourself—and the shine of your hair—as possible.

Think about it. Why do we need teeth whitening products, perfume, and new clothes that we know won’t make our lives better, especially when many of these products don’t work? Because we are constantly being bombarded by advertisers intent on making money by telling us that we are less than because our teeth aren’t white enough, we stink, and we are fat, while in the other corner someone else is getting all the good stuff in life because they bought the designer products, have extra shiny hair and white teeth, and are wearing the right brand of makeup.

Don’t get me wrong, I fall into the trap too, but the key to better ourselves as human beings is to recognize that thinking you aren’t good enough just as you are is a trap created by skillful marketing companies. They would have you believe you need a little something or lots of little something’s from lots of companies in order to be the very best version of yourself and have all the good things in life.

This is one of the reasons I get so angry when I hear people respond to those expressing their pain about the way they are treated because of their weight. These people respond by suggesting the answer is to lose weight. Yes, lose weight if you choose to, but not because you think it’s going to make you feel better. Does Axe body spray make a teenage boy feel better about himself?  Maybe for about 10 minutes but the better solution in all cases is to work on feeling good about you no matter what.

Here’s the thing, if you hate yourself, have low self-confidence, and do not love and respect yourself, dropping the weight is not going to fix these issues. You don’t want to make being a certain size a condition that needs to be met before you give yourself love, respect, and kindness. Nor do you want to teach your children that they will have more value if they look/dress a certain way or maintain an ideal figure. This behavior makes them feel like love and self-love is conditional, and if love needs to have conditions, it should definitely involve what size you wear. How would that ever create a better world?

I especially fear for the next generation of girls who are given messages over and over again that no matter what their accomplishments in life, the most important measure of their success will be that they be thin. Marketing companies want your children to think that, especially your daughters, because they are

1.) more likely to believe it

2.) much more likely to spend a lifetime of spare money trying to shore up their insecurities with stuff.

We have to stop this where it starts. We need to start focusing less on trying to buy things to fix our insecurities and more on loving ourselves just the way we are. Extra pounds, coffee stained teeth, and all. That way we can shift both our money and our energies away from feeding insecurities, and instead, focus on making ourselves and thus, the world a better place. It’s especially true that we teach this to our children. Your daughter (or son) might be a future Member of Congress or the President. Do you want them to think they should feel bad about themselves based on their weight? No! They should instead worry about getting their homework done.

Guess what happens when you focus on loving yourself and your body instead of hating yourself for those imperfections (if you want to call them that)?  Since losing weight is the ultimate act of self-love, you start losing weight anyway, and by then, you don’t care because love is what you really want and need.

Love yourself enough to focus on being a better person rather than a better LOOKING person.

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Jill Thomas

Soul Connect Hypnotherapy

760-803-2841

www.soulconnecthypnotherapy.com

www.facebook.com/soulconnecthypnotherapy

Simple Self-Hypnosis Process

Posted by healthyhabi | Posted in healing, Mental Health | Posted on 08-15-2017

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Simple Self-Hypnosis Process

It’s much easier to make your goals and intentions a reality if you can actually see and feel yourself achieving them in your mind’s eye. Self-hypnosis and guided imagery is a great way to help you connect to your goals on the inside in a way that makes them more real, thereby encouraging you to take the necessary actions every day toward achieving them. It can be very difficult for you to reach your goals if you can’t actually see yourself doing them. For instance, a fat person who can’t imagine being thin, and how good that would feel, might find it hard to get motivated enough to do all the steps needed to make it a reality.

Self-hypnosis helps you make that mind-body connection from where you can start to feel the changes you are trying to create. In other words, using self-hypnosis can help you feel like a thin person or rich person or any other outer change that you are trying to create in your life.

It should be noted that with self-hypnosis you are not able to go to the deeper levels of hypnosis that a therapist can take you to. Therefore, self-hypnosis is best used for simpler goals with very specific outcomes, like lowering your golf score or giving a good presentation at a sales meeting. It generally doesn’t work as well for bigger lifestyle changes, like losing weight, which often involves creating change in many areas of your life at once.

However, having said that, I still encourage everyone to give this process a try because it can really make difficult changes seem more doable.

There are many different techniques for self-hypnosis and many books that describe more detailed and complicated processes. Read one of those if you like but I personally like things that are simple so that’s how mine is written.

Step-by-Step Self-Hypnosis Process

1)     Find a quiet place where you can relax for a few minutes on either a chair or couch. I would also recommend putting on some peaceful relaxing music.

2)     Sit or lie down in a comfortable position, but don’t get so comfortable you fall asleep.

3)     Now notice your breath, the inhalation and exhalation, becoming aware of the ebb and flow of your breath as you allow yourself to become fully supported by the chair. Begin to feel yourself sinking into your chair.

4)     Now as you relax, imagine yourself sitting at the most peaceful place you can imagine. I want you to sink deep into the picture and make it as real as possible, filling it with all the details of the setting: the sounds, textures and smells of this place. As you get in touch with the peace of this place, I want you to see yourself drifting further and further down in this picture. You can do this by walking down a flight of stairs or by placing this scene on a cloud and bringing it further and further down.

5)     Now picture a problem situation or event for which you want to create a specific outcome. Examples may include making a sales call that you want to go well, participating in a sporting event where you want to do your best, or even resolving a conflict with a friend, family member, or co-worker in a specific favorable way.

6)     Now play this scene over in your mind, seeing it go exactly the way you wish while repeating (in your mind) a positive affirmation that is appropriate to the situation. For example: “I am a competent and capable salesperson who makes my clients want to buy from me,” or “I get along well with everyone,” or “I am an amazing baseball player.”

It’s important that both the scene and the situation be something that you are physically capable of doing and that you do believe, even on a conscious level, is possible. You wouldn’t want to see yourself winning the Masters golf tournament if you just started playing golf last week; although, hitting a better game than last time is certainly possible. Also, the affirmation needs to be said in a positive way. That is, you shouldn’t say, “I will not miss the ball,” because that may cause you to focus more on “missing the ball.” It’s better if your affirmation is something like, “I get better and better every time I step up to the tee.”

7)     Continue to play the scene in your mind with the affirmation at least five times while you continue to relax and be supported by the chair.

8)     When you are ready, you can bring yourself up by first becoming aware of the feelings of the chair supporting you, then start to wiggle your fingers and toes while becoming aware of the room and your soundings. And finally, when you are ready, open your eyes.

Jill Thomas CCHT

Soul Connect Hypnotherapy

760-803-2841

www.soulconnecthypnotherapy.com

www.facebook.com/soulconnecthypnotherapy

Addictions, Phobias, and How They’re Alike

Posted by healthyhabi | Posted in healing, Mental Health | Posted on 08-01-2017

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Addictions, Phobias, and How They’re Alike

A hypnotherapy teacher I once had shared her belief that drug addicts and people with severe fears/phobias have “entities” attached to them. Instantly, a picture flashed in my mind of slimy gremlins with teeth and claws, clinging to innocent humans. I began getting freaked out, and had to ask her to explain! According to the teacher, addiction itself becomes like a person—a parasite, really—that is secretly running the life of its host, sapping all their joy. The same is true for someone who lives with acute fear(s), which completely overpowers them and controls their behavior, emotions, words, and decisions.

I can’t say I’m willing to think of a drug addict or fear-ridden person as plagued by a parasitic entity…that’s a couple steps into the realm of “too weird” for me. However, in my work with clients over the years, I have come to understand what my early teacher was talking about.

For example, someone with a strong fear of driving is compelled to check in with that phobia before making any plans requiring travel. Person to Fear: “Would it be okay if I go visit Grandma on Saturday, or will you cripple me with terror and make me hyperventilate when I get in the car?” Fear to Person: “NO! You can’t go! What are you thinking? You would have to drive on the freeway, and I won’t let you do that!” At this point, the sufferer crawls into him- or herself and starts feeling anxious before they’ve even gotten anywhere near the car. They’re defeated once again, and their life just keeps getting smaller. In addition to that, they now have to make an embarrassing phone call to Grandma explaining (i.e. making up) the reason why they can’t come and see her.

Drug addicts have it even worse, as that drug, or more accurately, the need to keep that drug flowing through their bodies, literally consumes most of their waking thoughts. The fear of not having access to that drug totally runs their lives. I include food addiction in this category, as anyone who has an issue with food will tell you that thinking about it takes up a huge amount of their time. The only difference is that food addiction is quite a bit less destructive than drug addiction—or at least, less immediately destructive.

To make matters worse, in both cases, people around the afflicted person do not understand why that individual can’t “just stop” taking the drug or overeating. Why can’t that phobic individual “just get over it”? People who don’t have these problems simply don’t comprehend how difficult it is for people who do.

If you suffer from an addiction or phobia, what can you do? Get professional help. Like a weed planted in your back yard, either one of these issues will grow like crazy unless you do something early, when they’re less deeply rooted. From my experience with clients, it’s apparent that if ignored, these problems fester and get bigger—one small, mildly annoying fear can blossom into five huge, debilitating ones. With drugs, it’s even worse. These days, there are illicit drugs that can hook users after just one dose. Others may take longer, but it’s unsafe to experiment.

Both addiction and dysfunctional fear, which as you can see have certain similarities, are not only devastating to the person affected, but to everyone around them, including their family and loved ones.  Getting help might be easier if you consider that these issues affect more than just you. I, myself, am the daughter of a person who suffered from severe fears and phobias, and over time I’ve had to confront the detrimental effects this had on my own psyche. Please! Love yourself and your family enough to do the work to heal, because all of you deserve the best life possible.

And if you need help, Give me a call today!

Jill Thomas 760-803-2841

www.Soulconnecthypnotherapy.com 

Between Lives Soul Regression

Posted by healthyhabi | Posted in Uncategorized | Posted on 08-01-2017

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 Between Lives Soul Regression

Ever wonder about your life’s purpose or if you are on the right track in your life or even want a more direct connection with your spirit guilds? Are you in the process of a life change and would like guidance about your next steps?

Hypnotherapist and past life regression therapist Jill Thomas will guide you into a deep state of hypnosis where you will be able to experience past life and in between life information with astonishing detail.   In a Between lives regression you will be guided into a past life that is impacting your current life, be introduced to your guild or guilds, visit the higher realm to experience what happens between one life to another.

You will learn:
  • What is the unique purpose of your current life?
  • Who are the individuals you reincarnate the most?
  • Who are your guilds and what they most need you to know?

You will also have the opportunity to ask questions of your guides to receive information that will both instruct, and uplift you to the next level of your life’s journey.

This amazingly therapeutic process will leave you feeling inspired and full of wisdom to help you achieve your important life goals.
If you would like assistance on your next level call to schedule an appointment for this important part of your path.  CALL TODAY!

From now Until the end of August 2017 this session is just $199 regular price $249. (in person only please)
Jill Thomas

Soul Connect Hypnotherapy
www.soulconnecthypnotherapy.com
760-803-2841

The Avoiders—Some Things to Know

Posted by healthyhabi | Posted in relationships | Posted on 07-19-2017

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The Avoiders—Some Things to Know

Avoidance and avoidance behavior are terms recognized in psychology, and from my experience with an enormous number of clients, result in anything from minor annoyance to deep resentment. Avoidance seems to show up more often in men than in women, and is probably the number one complaint I hear from women about their husbands. I am quite sure it has ended many marriages.

Avoiders are people who are so afraid of conflict or uncomfortable feelings that they dodge the action or communication necessary to resolve problems. Instead, they find a rock to hide under…anything to escape the person and/or situation, in the extreme and almost delus

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ional hope that the issue will just sort itself out without them. Occasionally this strategy works, which is why they keep doing it. In most cases, however, an avoider just winds up making everyone mad at them.

In my own experience, I have had avoidant clients who “no-show” to appointments because they didn’t want to have to tell me they needed to reschedule. I don’t mind rescheduling as long as I get 24 hours’ notice. What I know I don’t like is sitting in my office for an hour, waiting for a client who is not coming.

  • Avoiders usually create a lot of conflict, along with major problems for their partners, by not doing those unpleasant tasks like filing taxes, cleaning out the garage, or setting boundaries with exes, coworkers, bosses, kids, and family. The worst part of this coping mechanism is that it’s unnecessary and wasteful. I would say, conservatively, that these people expend about ten times as much energy thinking about and trying to avoid something, as they would just dealing with it.
  • Where does this behavior come from?  The roots of avoidance are somewhat different for everyone, but for men, it commonly begins with a sensitive boy being berated by an overbearing mother. For women, it is frequently tied to emotional or physical abuse from either parent.
  • How do you fix this? I’m not going to lie. Avoidance is a tough issue, at the core of which is fear. Treatment is done using fear protocols, and this can take quite some time. I will say, though, that with patience and a real desire to change, healing is possible. If this sounds like a problem of yours, I strongly encourage you to seek help to prevent it from sabotaging your relationships. If you are a man dealing with a female boss, avoidance can actually destroy your career. Do not underestimate the damaging effects of this condition.

If you don’t think your avoidance behavior is “that serious,” consider your relationships, especially romantic ones, past and present. Have your partners complained about your failure to face challenges or tasks head-on? For a healthy, balanced relationship to survive, avoidance behavior must be acknowledged and worked on.

There is some good news! The work you do to heal will pay off in a much more fulfilling and meaningful life, one in which you are a true adult instead of a runaway child.

If you need help with this issue give me a call today, your spouse will call me after your session and thank me-I know because that actually happens all the time!

Looking forward to helping you create lasting change.

Jill Thomas CCHT

Soul Connect Hypnotherapy

760-803-2841

www.soulconnecthypnotherapy.com 

Warning! Summertime Setbacks

Posted by healthyhabi | Posted in Uncategorized | Posted on 07-01-2017

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Warning! Summertime Setbacks

Once again, summer is here! Long days, lemonade, vacations, and…what? Cries for help? Every year in my practice, some of the same issues pop up like freckles during this season. This time, I figured a preventative warning about a few of the most common might be in order—kinda like putting sunblock on BEFORE you go out in the sun instead of AFTER!

Where did I Hide my Wedding Ring?  While preparing to leave the house for a summer vacation, many people hide their jewelry for “safekeeping.” Trouble is, it’s so safe, the travelers themselves can’t remember where they put it later on! While I find it fun to hypnotize someone to help them recall where they hid something, the client who fears they’ve lost their $10,000 diamond tennis bracelet forever probably doesn’t find it quite as entertaining. If you’re a “security squirreller,” write down where your treasure is buried, or tell someone you trust! If you do forget, call me as soon as you can, because the longer you wait, the deeper your mind itself will bury this little secret.

A Stuffy Problem.  At least a couple times in summer, and frequently in the winter, I get calls from people with bad allergies or colds who started using nasal spray and can’t stop. Reminder: the bottle says to quit use after three days, not two months! The longer you wait to get off the spray, the harder it is. Simple answer—don’t prolong use to begin with.

Fear of Flying.  This is a specialty of mine, and I can generally help anyone overcome this common phobia. I can also tell you that the anticipation of flying is worse than the flight itself, so call me when you book the flight, rather than the day before you take off, to avoid unnecessary suffering.

Opioids Danger.  Unfortunately, I frequently hear from people who were injured at the beginning of summer, and overused their pain medication to the point of becoming addicted. There’s no typecasting here; these are soccer moms, engineers, or weekend athletes who now find themselves enslaved to a drug. I wish I could say this is an easy fix, but the fact is, addiction to painkillers can be quite serious, and I refer most people with this issue to an inpatient treatment program. For your own sake, exercise extreme caution if you’re prescribed pain medication, and closely monitor your kids’ access to them.

The Siren Call of Sugar.  Sugar hijacks the part of your brain that signals being full, and turns it off.  This explains why, when you eat something sugary, you want to go back to the kitchen for more, over and over again. Hypnosis can help, but prevention is better. Avoid high-sugar foods and to try to cut back on carbs in general.

Relax but Don’t Slack. Try not to let go all your healthy routines just because it’s summer. It may seem like a harmless “break,” but realize that it takes at least 21 days to reestablish a habit, e.g. going to the gym. Trust me, you won’t enjoy having to start all over again in September. Hypnosis can help, but it’s easier and more beneficial to keep up your good health habits…summer, spring, winter, fall.

Better Call Saul Withdrawal.  A good friend of mine has this problem, so if you figure out a cure, let me know… Such a nasty cliffhanger! Not cool, AMC.

Have a happy, healthy summer everyone!!

Jill Thomas

Healthy Habits Hypnosis

760-803-2841

www.healthyhabitshypnosis.com

Jill@healthyhabitshypnosis.com

 

Celebrate Your True Self

Posted by healthyhabi | Posted in healing | Posted on 06-20-2017

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Jill with a GoatCelebrate Your True Self

One of the privileges of my profession is the opportunity to talk to people about feelings and problems in their lives on a deeper, more authentic level than the way most people normally relate to one another, even their friends. In general, people rarely open up about their goals, fears, and other parts of their inner world. I think this is sad because, quite frankly, that’s the best part of a person! For example, when I’m on Facebook and read the five things people list as “interests” on their profile, I’m far more curious to learn why those things are important to them, how those interests make them feel, and the story behind them.

True Disclosure – Over the years, I’ve had many members of Alcoholics Anonymous as clients, and all have told me that what they like best about going to their AA meetings is listening to other people share on a gut level about themselves, “warts” and all, and their sometimes-harrowing life experiences. Finding out that others have had similar feelings and humiliating incidents helps members to be less judgmental and more compassionate with themselves and the people around them.

True Purpose – One technique I use in my practice is past life regression, during which I guide clients into a deep trance state where it is possible to explore the actual purpose of their soul beyond present time and space. This is an amazing experience, as you can imagine, and through it, clients become aware of their own vital importance by discovering the special and particular reason they exist!

Truly Who We Are – Wouldn’t it be astounding if more of us tried to drop the mask we usually wear—you know, that all-important “impression management” façade—and were more authentically ourselves? Think how much easier it would be to get along with others. If only we could see that the image we put so much effort into projecting could never be more beautiful and interesting than who we really are.

True Love – If you want to find real love, let people see the actual you…the person I am so blessed to talk to during our sessions. You really are all so astonishing when you’re being “real.” Think about the great effort to maintain that acting job of being cool, confident, and together all the time, when inside you know you’re just faking it. It might help you to know that just about every person you think is SOOO confident, feels the same way you do inside. If you don’t believe me, try asking anyone about this (especially after they’ve had a glass or two of wine!), and you’ll see.

So, love yourself enough to let more of your freak flag fly! Even if people don’t “get” you, when all is said and done, the most important thing is that YOU get you.

**Yes, that is truly me with very little makeup, holding a goat cuz it sounded like fun. : )

Namaste.

Jill Thomas
760-803-2841
Healthy Habits Hypnosis www.healthyhabitshypnosis.com &
Soul Connect Hypnotherapy http://www.soulconnecthypnotherapy.com 

Do What you Love

Posted by healthyhabi | Posted in healing | Posted on 04-26-2017

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Do What You Love

“I race only for fun” ~ Peter Sagan

Many of you probably don’t know this, but I am a huge cycling fan. One of my absolute favorite athletes is champion road bicycle racer Peter Sagan, and not only because he wins (a lot!), but because unlike many his competitors, Sagan really looks like he’s having fun doing his sport. This makes him a true pleasure to watch, and a bunch of other spectators seem to agree. Even though there are many more competitive racers, Sagan has one of the largest fan bases among cyclists. The same is true of Jens Voigt, who had a huge following even though he rarely won. After retiring from bicycling, he was able to make a smooth and successful transition to being a beloved commentator.

I use these examples to show that when a person is doing something they really love, the joy it brings them radiates outward and is very magnetic to others. Conversely, people who don’t seem to enjoy what they’re doing give off a vibe that tends to put off those around them.

I see too many people who entered a profession because it paid well and then grew used to earning a lot of money, but who lost their passion for it a long time ago despite still working in that field. It seems to me that this is the case particularly with real estate agents. No offense to this group—I respect the work they do and am friendly with many realtors—but so many I talk to are jaded and unenthusiastic, especially since making money in realty is way harder than it was before the latest recession. A lot of individuals in this job category are really hurting for business right now.

I know some of you are thinking, “I would love to follow my passion, but it doesn’t pay very much. I like to eat and drive a nice car!” Trust me, I totally get that, and it’s the reason I kept my sales job during the day while doing hypnotherapy and intuitive readings at night…for over six years! After I was laid off from my “day job,” hypnotherapy became my priority.

Most passions begin like a seed, which once planted, takes time to grow. Patience is needed, but if you truly love whatever your “thing” is, you will nurture it with your time, attention, and interest. The pleasure you derive from it in turn attracts others, who will appreciate your commitment and excitement. And if your gift can benefit them, they may be willing to pay you to share it!

Play with the idea of “If I could do anything, what would it be?” If you can’t think of a particular profession, consider how you would like to spend the hours in your day—what would you be doing?  Many years ago, I did this, and dreamt of talking to a variety of people, having chunks of time during the day to write, as well as the freedom to take breaks during the week “just because.” This is 100% of what I do now, and I can’t describe how much satisfaction and happiness I have.

Allow yourself time to fantasize…you might come up with some amazing ideas that could even change your life! Coming up with new options may take a while, but don’t stop exploring possibilities. And even if you need training for a new profession or have to work on building your clientele, time is going to pass anyway, so you might as well be doing what brings you joy.  Never forget that our time to play on this planet is limited, so it’s up to us to “only race for fun.”

*And if you want to watch Peter Sagan on TV check out the Tour of California May 11th 2017

 

Jill Thomas Hypnotherapist

Healthy Habits Hypnosis
187 Calle Magdalena #209
Encinitas, CA 92024
(760) 803-2841

www.healthyhabitshypnosis.com

Coming in 2017

Posted by healthyhabi | Posted in Uncategorized | Posted on 03-26-2017

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Coming in 2017

I know its late to talk about new year’s plans but let’s face it things take time to put together so here it is:

Some of you have already noticed the newsletter looks different.  That’s because I am very pleased to announce I have launched a new website with some new services I had not offered before. And quite frankly I don’t feel like writing two newsletters so both businesses will share this one.

Check out my new site.  www.soulconnecthypnotherapy.com  (*Somethings are still a work in progress but if a link isn’t working please let me know. )

Healthy Habits Hypnosis is not changing or going anywhere. We will be offering the same intuitive regressive hypnotherapy, life coaching and habit healing with both businesses. Soul Connect will focus more the intuitive services, past life and between life regressions as well as the new classes and workshops I will be offering.

Having said that here’s a some of what you will be hearing about coming soon:

-Soul Retrieval Past life
-Between Lives soul regressions
-Group past life regressions
-New Mini Hypnosis sessions going up on my youtube channel
-Classes and workshops on Manifesting money and Intuition development.
-And much more

I have also made a new video for my homepage showing what it looks like to be hypnotized.  Check it out, if only to see what I look like with a TON of makeup and fake eyelashes : )

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wxovn5ZH5tQ&t=9s

It’s been my pleasure to work with all of you and I Look forward to being of service to you for many more years to come.

Jill Thomas

Healthy Habits Hypnosis

760-803-2841

www.healthyhabitshypnosis.com

Happy break up season!

Posted by healthyhabi | Posted in healing, Uncategorized | Posted on 01-06-2017

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‘Tis the Season…to Break Up!
I swear I’m not making this up! The period of January 2nd through February 12th is infamously known as “break-up season,” and if you don’t believe me, just ask any divorce attorney. Interestingly, early-year splits are not limited to the romance department, but apply to a variety of areas—job changes, business partner dissolutions, or “turning over a new leaf” in your lifestyle/health goals (like eating differently to lose weight, for instance).In the case of romantic  break-ups, people generally wait until after the holidays to make this type of change since, let’s face it, no one wants to be alone or dealing with major upheavals during this time of year. However, with Valentine’s Day looming, it makes sense to cut off the relationship before it arrives, thus avoiding having to buy an expensive gift for someone with whom you see no future. Regarding the job situation, seeds of dissatisfaction are often planted during the January to mid-February timeframe, even if it takes a while to find another job and actually leave.

What is so different about these particular six weeks?

I explained the relationship rationale already, but in other areas, there are a number of factors contributing to beginning-of-the-year restlessness. Firstly, the longer periods of darkness lead to mild depression for some people, causing more introspection and reflection. We may become more acutely aware of certain life issues and feelings, and think to ourselves, “I’m not happy. Why is that?”

Another aspect of the post-New Year’s period is that many of us—even with the bustle of the holidays—have had some time off from work and the chance to reconnect with family. If you’ve been over-extending yourself on the job, you might painfully sense what you’ve been missing by working so much. Again, this can cause you to question your life’s direction and whether you want to continue on your current course. Often the answer is “no,” and hence the desire for change.

Even though “’Tis the season,” major change is still not easy, even if you’re moving away from something that is harmful or limiting you. This is especially true in the case of leaving a bad relationship in hopes of finding a better match. After leaving what is old, familiar, and yet unsatisfying, you may be on your own for quite some time before a new relationship presents itself. Or you may be walking away from a job that you hated to begin a new one someplace else. What if this one is even worse? It feels risky, like jumping off an edge into the unknown.

At this point, it helps to remember that part of any great success story is what preceded the final victory…the self-centered boyfriend or girlfriend you had to walk away from, the demeaning treatment you got at your old job, the dozens of rejections before your business plan finally got backing. It takes courage, and lots of it, along with a degree of tolerance for the unfamiliar, to abandon what you’re accustomed to and break new ground. But unless you push aside the stuff in your life that isn’t working, it takes up the parking spot where your new life could be.

Having said all that don’t be afraid to call a lawyer for advice if your breakup involves anything legal.  I cannot tell you how many ugly stories of being taken advantage of that I have heard in my office that started  with the person saying “I was trying to be nice so I didn’t call a lawyer and it cost me a fortune.”

Now don’t read this and think that I’m telling you to dump your boyfriend, quit your job, or fire your business partner. These are your decisions, obviously, but don’t be terribly surprised if you find yourself doing some bigger-picture life evaluation right after the holidays. I encourage you to entertain those thoughts just a little, because who knows—they may be the seeds of inspiration leading to your next huge win!

 

Jill Thomas, Board Certified Hypnotherapist, weight-loss consultant, & author, has been a health and wellness professional for over 15 years, specializing in stress / anxiety reduction and attainment of holistic wellbeing.

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