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Hanging Out With Healers

Posted by healthyhabi | Posted in healing | Posted on 10-29-2014

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Hanging Out With Healers

I have to share an experience of hanging out with fellow healers that is in hindsight very funny, but at the time, it was an eye-rolling torture session where I prayed my phone would ring so I could pretend I had to leave and get the heck out of there.

I signed up for a Meetup event called something like “Spiritual Female Business Owners Mastermind Group,” which sounded like fun, but it very quickly became a “mine is better than yours, no mine is better, no mine, me, and oh did I mention I am the most spiritual person here” jostling for position event disguised as a “supportive” group for women. (I will admit I am exaggerating a bit but not much.) Sadly, this is a common occurrence at these kinds of events with healers.

In this event, we were all supposed to bring up a problem, and everyone was supposed to give input on how to solve it. Almost all the problems presented invited the kinds of answers you would give a potential employer at a job interview when asked the question, “What is your greatest weakness?” Well, I tend to work TOO hard, be TOO reliable and just get too much stuff done. In this case, I heard a lot about having too big a database of customers, having too many clients and not knowing what to do, or getting too many leads. Most of which was obviously complete BS.

My favorite part was when the person next to me mentioned that her book was recently published by a REAL publisher, which was a dig at the woman across the table who had just proudly told us she had published her new book on Amazon’s CreateSpace, a self publishing and distribution site. I so wanted the self-published author to smile and say, “Oh so that means when you sell a book, you get $1 rather than the $5 I get?” But she just smiled and pretended it was all good.

All of this was done with disingenuous smiling faces and lots of fake “Oh, I’m so happy for you” comments. Another highlight/lowlight was when I asked a social media expert for her business card, and she said in a very condescending way, “I am a social media expert. I don’t even carry cards anymore.”

I couldn’t help but say, “Well, take mine then and contact me because as soon as I walk out that door I am not even going to remember your name.” Not very supportive I know, but I was over it.

I wish I could say that was unusual, but it’s not. It happens in just about every industry. One of my good friends is a yoga instructor and described a very similar experience at a yoga event to meet other instructors. My brother, who has a line of videos for karate instructors, told me I could have exchanged the words “healer group” for “karate instructor meeting,” and I would have perfectly described his experience at a karate instructor forum. In the world of writing and publishing, it’s like that times 10. I don’t even go to those events anymore.

When a person works in the healing arts and says “namaste” when they greet you, do not assume that they are all enlightened in some super human spiritual way. We are all human, which means we are all completely capable of acting just as insecure and childish as a bunch of 15 year old girls with a crush on the same cute boy. Myself included.

If you decide to attend a meeting like that, I would suggest being mindful of the fact that often there can be (although not always) an element of desperation and insecurity in those groups, and when egos come out to play, they don’t always act their best. Just do like I did, laugh inside at the silliness of human nature and then write about it later.

Namaste : )

Jill Thomas CCHT
Healthy Habits Hypnosis
760-803-2841
www.healthyhabitshypnosis.com
http://www.facebook.com/healthyhabitshypnosis
Author of the book “Feed Your Real Hunger” & “30 day weight loss Jumpstart” Hypnosis CD
For more information and free hypnosis meditations visit www.healthyhabitshypnosis.com

“I accidentally made myself impotent, and I need your help.”

Posted by healthyhabi | Posted in healing | Posted on 10-16-2014

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“I accidentally made myself impotent, and I need your help.”

One of my first paid hypnosis clients was someone moving here from another state and looking to continue the work he had started with another hypnotherapist. Since at the time most of my clients were coming to me for common fears and phobias this man’s statement really intrigued me.

“I accidentally made myself impotent, and I need your help.” This was a deeply religious man, and in his religion, it was considered infidelity to even think about a woman who was not his wife in a sexual way. Unfortunately, in his occupation as a commercial photographer, he would often take pictures of women wearing little to no clothing. Even though he was married, these women would flirt with him making it nearly impossible NOT to think of them in a sexual way. Since he didn’t want to spend eternity in a very hot place (in his mind), he had created an interesting yet equally destructive way of dealing with this problem. He put on weight, a lot of weight at the time I was speaking with him. He was almost 400 pounds and had not been able to have sex for some time.

None of this was done on a conscious level. So for a long time he couldn’t figure out what had caused the problem. One of his friends had suggested hypnotherapy, and under hypnosis it was revealed that he was creating his health problem as a way of saving both his marriage and his soul.

I asked him how his prior hypnotherapist had help him discover the problem and he said “Well, after a few sessions, I came in one day, she hypnotized me and just asked, ‘What am I getting out of this?’ Saving my marriage was the first thing that came to mind. It seemed ridiculous at the time because in reality it’s actually making my marriage worse but in a different way.” He had actually created a real medical physical problem as a way to solve an emotional one.

That is often how our unconscious mind works; it looks at the bigger problem and tries to solve it, not noticing that it created another problem as a result of that unconscious decision. It’s a bit like a dark fairy tale where a person gets a wish granted. They wish for money, gain a lot of money but only because someone close to them died.

While I was working with him under hypnosis, this man was able to make a different decision about how he would solve this problem, one that would allow him to lose the weight and be healthy. In time, he was able to fix some hormone imbalances which were a part of his problem, lose the weight and return to healthy sexual function, as well as maintain a healthy, happy marriage without giving up a career he loved. All of this started when he stopped looking at the symptoms of the problem (weight gain, impotence) and looked at the underlying problem itself. So often we only focus on the physical, and we miss the underlying emotional benefit we receive by creating and maintaining this problem.

If you have an issue you can’t seem to get rid of, ask yourself, “How am I benefiting from this problem? What am I getting out of this?” Your first reaction will likely be an angry, “Nothing! This is all bad,” but try to go deeper, play devil’s advocate and look at things like, “Am I getting much needed attention because I have this problem? Am I getting to avoid something I don’t want to deal with because of this problem?” Having the answer may not automatically solve it, but you will be much closer to the solution than you were before. Love yourself enough to take a deeper look at the “why’s” of your problems rather than just the “what” of your issues and don’t be afraid to seek help. It may be closer than you think.

Jill Thomas CCHT
Healthy Habits Hypnosis
760-803-2841
www.healthyhabitshypnosis.com
http://www.facebook.com/mindbodyhealth
Author of the book “Feed Your Real Hunger” & “30 day weight loss Jumpstart” Hypnosis CD
For more information and free hypnosis meditations visit www.healthyhabitshypnosis.com

Misconceptions about hypnosis Debunked!

Posted by healthyhabi | Posted in Uncategorized | Posted on 10-06-2014

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Misconceptions about hypnosis Debunked!

“I can’t be hypnotized” I admit I hate hearing these words from people because I know it means there is too much misinformation out there about hypnosis. If you will permit me a moment on my soap box, I would like to clear this one up for everyone.

Most of the time when I hear those words, it’s from someone who thinks that being open to hypnotic suggestions means they are somehow LESS intelligent than the average person.  These people often assume because they see right through the lies of a professional sales person or a commercial that they are not easily influenced. That is true; they likely aren’t. However, hypnosis doesn’t belong in the same category.

The truth is, the more intelligent you are, the MORE easily you are hypnotized. Our minds created the alpha state (a light state of hypnosis) in order to help us absorb information more easily. You know when you are focusing so intently on something (like the World of Warcraft) that the whole world just fades away and time seems to stop. That’s the alpha state. It is also known as being in the zone. The average person puts himself/herself into that state all the time, even more so if you are a scientist, engineer or someone who performs work that requires intense focus. In fact, scientists now believe the ability to get into that state of mind for long periods of time either results in or is created by higher intelligence. It is well known that people of lower intelligence have a harder time creating or maintaining this state of mind.

Debunking common misconceptions about hypnosis:

“But Ive never been picked for a stage show.” Neither have I, nor will I, and not just because I know what they are up to and won’t go along with it; I don’t want to. It’s not my thing, but it is what those people on stage like doing which is why it works on them.

“Somebody told me I couldnt be hypnotized.” I bet that person was a new hypnotist and didn’t know that you use a slightly different processes on scientists and engineers than you would use on artists. Give me their number, and I will set them straight.

“I went to a hypnotherapist once, and I dont think I was hypnotized even though she said I was.” Did you see the results in your life? For example, if you went in to stop smoking, did you quit smoking? You probably were hypnotized, but it wasn’t properly explained to you that being in a state of hypnosis doesn’t feel that different from regular waking consciousness, just more relaxing. Even a very light state of trance can create profound change, particularly for someone who is very intelligent.

“But I have ADD OR ADHD.” Great, you are in good company! Most people with ADD or ADHD are actually more intelligent than the average person. No big deal. It will still work very well on you.

“But I am afraid my mind will fight it.” If I tell you to jump off a bridge, your mind won’t fight it. Your mind will ignore it. Listen, our minds fight things we don’t understand all the time, and yes, sometimes the second session goes better than the first because you know what to expect. Don’t worry about fighting the process. There is nothing to fight. If you fought going to sleep for a period of time, eventually you would fall asleep. Hypnosis is a bit like that.

Hypnosis is fun. Relax and enjoy the process. You will remember everything unless you fall asleep, and if you do fall asleep, don’t worry about it. Most hypnotherapists (including me) record the fun part so you can do it again if you like.

So bottom line, unless you aren’t very bright, and I am sure if you are reading this you are, then you can be hypnotized. So feel free to call someone for the help you need. If you are afraid of your phone, send an email. Hypnosis can help with that too.

Jill Thomas CCHT
Healthy Habits Hypnosis
760-803-2841
www.healthyhabitshypnosis.com
http://www.facebook.com/mindbodyhealth
Author of the book “Feed Your Real Hunger” & “30 day weight loss Jumpstart” Hypnosis CD
For more information and free hypnosis meditations visit www.healthyhabitshypnosis.com