Posted by healthyhabi | Posted in healing | Posted on 10-29-2014
Tags: Business, healer, healing arts, hypnosis, meetup, networking
Hanging Out With Healers
I have to share an experience of hanging out with fellow healers that is in hindsight very funny, but at the time, it was an eye-rolling torture session where I prayed my phone would ring so I could pretend I had to leave and get the heck out of there.
I signed up for a Meetup event called something like “Spiritual Female Business Owners Mastermind Group,” which sounded like fun, but it very quickly became a “mine is better than yours, no mine is better, no mine, me, and oh did I mention I am the most spiritual person here” jostling for position event disguised as a “supportive” group for women. (I will admit I am exaggerating a bit but not much.) Sadly, this is a common occurrence at these kinds of events with healers.
In this event, we were all supposed to bring up a problem, and everyone was supposed to give input on how to solve it. Almost all the problems presented invited the kinds of answers you would give a potential employer at a job interview when asked the question, “What is your greatest weakness?” Well, I tend to work TOO hard, be TOO reliable and just get too much stuff done. In this case, I heard a lot about having too big a database of customers, having too many clients and not knowing what to do, or getting too many leads. Most of which was obviously complete BS.
My favorite part was when the person next to me mentioned that her book was recently published by a REAL publisher, which was a dig at the woman across the table who had just proudly told us she had published her new book on Amazon’s CreateSpace, a self publishing and distribution site. I so wanted the self-published author to smile and say, “Oh so that means when you sell a book, you get $1 rather than the $5 I get?” But she just smiled and pretended it was all good.
All of this was done with disingenuous smiling faces and lots of fake “Oh, I’m so happy for you” comments. Another highlight/lowlight was when I asked a social media expert for her business card, and she said in a very condescending way, “I am a social media expert. I don’t even carry cards anymore.”
I couldn’t help but say, “Well, take mine then and contact me because as soon as I walk out that door I am not even going to remember your name.” Not very supportive I know, but I was over it.
I wish I could say that was unusual, but it’s not. It happens in just about every industry. One of my good friends is a yoga instructor and described a very similar experience at a yoga event to meet other instructors. My brother, who has a line of videos for karate instructors, told me I could have exchanged the words “healer group” for “karate instructor meeting,” and I would have perfectly described his experience at a karate instructor forum. In the world of writing and publishing, it’s like that times 10. I don’t even go to those events anymore.
When a person works in the healing arts and says “namaste” when they greet you, do not assume that they are all enlightened in some super human spiritual way. We are all human, which means we are all completely capable of acting just as insecure and childish as a bunch of 15 year old girls with a crush on the same cute boy. Myself included.
If you decide to attend a meeting like that, I would suggest being mindful of the fact that often there can be (although not always) an element of desperation and insecurity in those groups, and when egos come out to play, they don’t always act their best. Just do like I did, laugh inside at the silliness of human nature and then write about it later.
Namaste : )
Jill Thomas CCHT
Healthy Habits Hypnosis
Author of the book “Feed Your Real Hunger” & “30 day weight loss Jumpstart” Hypnosis CD
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